June 23rd, 2008
What’s Bothering You?28 Comments
I was in Los Angeles, California this weekend for a business conference and I’m actually still here for a few more hours until I get back to Dallas tonight.
I learned something very important.
I need to be listening to you more.
Talking to you more.
Finding out what you need.
And asking you how I can help you.
So I want to start out by doing this…
I want to start out by asking you this question.
What’s bothering you?
In terms of your fitness or your weight or health what is really frustrating you?
What do you need help with?
But I want you to do a little bit more with this.
I want to challenge you and have you dig a little deeper into your emotions.
So for example instead of just telling me I can’t seem to lose these last 20 pounds, I want you to tell me why that bothers you.
How does it make you feel?
Maybe you felt embarrassed because you just went to the beach with your friends and
you were ashamed to take your shirt off or walk around in your bikini.
Perhaps someone made a comment that it looks like you’ve put on a few pounds and that’s
bothering you.
Or maybe there is something about your health that is affecting your relationship with your
spouse and this is making you sad and unloved.
So I really want to you dig a little deep on this one and tell me what’s bothering you
and the emotions you are feeling.
You can also ask me any questions you need help with and I will do my best to help you as
much as I can.
Just leave your comments here…
I appreciate it and I can’t wait to help you more. : )
Have an amazing day.
Scott
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28 Responses to “What’s Bothering You?”
9:40 am
I am unlike everyone else. I don’t need to lose weight but I need to gain weight. I am hoping to gain at least 5-10 more lbs. My BMI is excellent, my diet is the best ever which is 80%raw and 20% cooked foods, hence my reason for not gaining or losing weight. Need an expert’s advise on this one.
Thanks in advance.
9:52 am
what bothers me is, in fact, that I *appear* less fit than my friends when in fact, my diet is the cleanest & my workout routine is the most consistent & varied. This was apparent to me at the beach last week when some of us met up for the first time in a longgg time. My friends know my dedication so they’re probably wondering, I won’t say *judging*, why I don’t nec. look like a person that is so consistent or if I’m really a closet junkfood eater or…??? I know that I am at a genetic disadvantage from both sides of my family–thanks mom & dad–but it’s still difficult b/c I feel that for the amount of time & thought that goes into my daily “plans”, I should be smokin’!! So it’s acceptance that I’m having trouble with. I’m very healthy and my “adjusted” age is a lot younger than my chronological age, but still…vanity, eh?!
10:30 am
I have really lost focus with my diet and i can’t seem to get back. I have always gotten down to my ideal weight and body comp each summer except for the last two. I just can’t seem to get there anymore.
11:26 am
Whats bothering me!!!. Night be sorry you asked that. I have read and read and read everything out there in relation to your program…inspired to make a change…..not at all. Not saying the program you developed isn’t great….i know it is…but i can’t get off my lazy $%#%% to do something.I have two kids..that should be motivation enough….but yet i am obese… have been most of my life…. sigh!!!!
2:47 pm
I have been doing alot of the exercises that you suggest. I am not over-weight but do want 6-pack abs. I was actually a pretty good athlete at one time and still keep my self active through sports. My challange is then when I start making progress my back gives out to the point I cannot do anything. I feel like I have to start over when it gets better. I have been doing alot of core work especially stabilization of the spine but it still seems to bother me after a while.
4:18 pm
What’s bothering me apart from the fact that my last few pounds of pregnancy weight is being really stubborn and refusing to co-operate with me. Well what bothers me is why do I always feel like the ugly duckling when I’m in a group of people? I have no physical deformities or oddities that are obvious and yet I feel like I’m short, stumpy and just plain plain. I have a great husband and 3 beautiful children so I must appeal to someone. My workmates do tell me I’m not the most feminine kinda girl and in fact last week the comment was made that I am more ‘blokey’ than some of the blokes that I work with. I have all the curves in the right places (although at the moment a little too rounded for my liking but I am working hard to fix that). I dream about my training. I wake up and on my train to work in the morning I think about how else I can get more exercise into my day. The physical is easy…with time and effort I know that the results I want are there to be had…and I will. The emotional and mental..well I’m just too sure how to fix that….well thats what bothers me.
4:23 pm
What really bothers me is that I want to understand your program, but haven’t got time to read all the emails. I am more of a practical person and prefer to do than to read, so have found with your program I haven’t even started nor know what it is.
I have lost 30kgs over the last 6 months using Tony Fergusson Diet because I could walk into a pharmacy sit down and have them tell me what to do.
What also bothers me is people once they know you are on a diet asking every week how much you have lost, I know they are trying to be encouraging and while I’ve been doing well it is fine, but when you hit one of those slow weight loss times it makes you feel like you are failing them somehow and you really want to tell them to get stuffed, when I explained this to someone recently who asked, they didn’t know what to say!
5:03 pm
I am 53 years old, joined a gym for the first time 1 1/2 years ago. Am 6’3″, went from 225 to 173 lbs. From bench pressing about 60lbs 10 times to currently 135lbs 10 times. Have started competing in 5k runs – am in the middle of the pack, which is OK. Problems – abdominal fat – I am still 19.5% body fat (down from 26), and the fall is mostly around my abdomen and will NOT go away. Aside from that, I am quite slender, and people who haven’t seen me in a while think I’m unhealthy because of the weight loss.
If I get too strict with the dieting I lose muscle as well as fat. Any questions?
5:58 pm
What bothers me is thinking I look pretty good…and then seeing a photo or video of myself, where I look very overweight. More interest from my partner wouldn’t hurt either.
6:48 pm
Whats bothering me??? The fact that i have lost 75 lbs on my own and have been stuck at 153 (although i look like i weigh 135 – no one, not even the gym owners believe me untl i prove it by getting on the scale). I want to weigh somewhere in the 140 range – I large framed woman 5′ 4.5″ and 140 would be just about perfect
My work outs run 5 days a week .. with saturday being a modified work out at home & sundays off. I follow weight watchers for my daily eating and have found that to be easy to follow as well as quite satisfying. I just cant seem to get over this hurtle… i’ve tried increasing calories i’ve tried decreasing calories.. i just feel as though i’ve failed (despite the 75lb weight loss). For ONCE in my life, i want to be fit/thin .. UGH …
11:34 pm
i have pain in clf of my leg(more in left leg).can you advise some exercise or diet or medicine.
12:06 am
Hi. What’s bothering me…Well, I retired at 50, (too young, but a horrible job, so well worth it), and I have been following your program and TT for about 10 months. I lost the weight before exercising. Yes, goes against the rules but this is the 3rd time in my life where I made a serious commitment to weight loss, and was successful without dizzy spells/weakness/ etc. This time I do not want to regress; instead I want to move forward. But there is no support from family or friends, including the hubby. It’s difficult. I make his meal, and have to make a seperate meal for me. He is heavily into fried foods & pizza & night smoking, and it does not matter what I say, he continues on the same path. He is a good man, but will not change his eating habits, or his exercise habits (which are nonexistent). Nor is he truly interested in my exercise and strength successes. Regardless, I am dedicated and determined to improve my fitness and shape. But, I get down alot, because it seems that no one cares…pathetic isn’t it? Any suggestions?
5:34 am
I agree with Wilma on her weight gain comments. It at least 4,000 daily for me to gain 1 measly pound a week. The best thing I’ve got going for me is that I’m not obese. But then again I don’t eat 20 lbs. of man-made foods every day. It takes twice as much “health” food to gain weight as eating from the unhealthy food groups.
Many people will ask why do you want to gain weight. Take a good look at some of us and you will see why. Not all of us are interested in a being built like a telephone pole. It takes as much consistency and dedication to gain or maintain a desired body weight as it does to lose weight.
And I’m really sick of hearing about all of the “perfect body” stories where everyone got it all together without using steroids or taking supplements. That’s simply not true. All of us are not that genetically gifted. That’s just the way it is. I won’t say anymore on this today. I’m saving the rest for my book.
7:27 am
I want to look in the mirror and be impressed with my physique, not disappointed.I want to feel sexy and proud of my body,and i want to control the diet slip ups that happen,usually at the end of a hard streessful day. I’m a healthy vegetarian, but my shape has changed since having 3kids in 6years in my late 30′s,in spite of a very active lifestyle,and 3hours a week really working out hard in the gym.HELP!!!!!
8:07 am
I’ve always been active, exerise EVERY DAY,(i like to!) but I can’t seem to get rid of the “love handles” on the sides of my waist!!Any special moves for THAT??? Help!!Thank you so much!!:)
8:35 am
I am still 15.5% body fat (down from 22%). I am pretty commited however went I am getting close to my goal (10-12%) I start to sabotage myself by eating more junk than usual, going to the gym just once a week… fear of success?!!
11:48 am
I Have been in therapy for almost a year with a herniated disc. The Dr. calls it “KRACKATOA”(SP?) He feels it is the worst he has ever seen. The surgery hasn’t been scheduled yet, but I maintain my streching and swimming everyday. I feel like I’m in a rut, and I try to mix it up to keep from getting bored. I HAVE TO work out every morning so I can move without intense pain.I was at a good fitness level prior to the injury. I just turned 41 and my metabolism seems to be okay, 6’2 170lbs. I am pretty lean, but my energy level seems to be dropping. I have not done any resistance training since before the injury only body wieght exercises concentrating on no compression on the spine. I guess i need to start keeping my mind straight.
4:18 pm
HI THANKS for takin the time to listen to my problems. I believe all i actually need to get better in all areas is just to lift more weight, so my muscles actually show. i cant seem to lift any more than – its low and am a 19 y-o man. Please assist me in this. Thanks Man.
10:58 am
I am just starting (again) a fitness program and I need help with motivation and willpower! I had a friend ask me if I was still working out. He may as well have just said “you’re getting fat”! Because that’s what I heard! But I heard it and now I am back to exercising, but need some motivation! Thanks
2:35 pm
Thanks for the opportunity to comment. I’m a 60 y.o., 5″ 9″ 180 lbs., with the statistical health of a 34 y.o.. My father was an excellent example of staying fit to me and I’m thankful he was. While my mother was over weight her whole life, she lived to 92. So, I think she must have been very healthy too despite her extra pounds.
4 years ago I went on the Peter D’Adamo Eating for your Blood Type diet and lost 60 pounds. I have been able to keep it off, but still have a belly fat look that you can just grab a hold of, and if you could just pinch it off, I’d look great. I guess it’s about a 10-15 lb slab. I do Nia three times a week and am endeavoring to make the time to walk the three mile walking course near my home, so I can burn more fat. This could eliminate that last bit of jello in the middrift and inner thighs. I know that if the calories consumed excede the calories burned, there is no hope of getting rid of that last bit of excess. Thanks for your encouragement and great tips.
1:50 pm
Hi,
Glad to hear you are getting to the core of weight loss for a huge percentage of people. This is what I talk about all the time on my blog. There is more to weight loss than opening or closing one’s mouth.
I know from experience, after losing 68 pounds, that starting with diet and exercise is jumping into a lake up to your eyeballs, and not knowing how to swim.
I always go to the beginning or the core, ask questions first, find out what kind of eater they are, find out some basic answers and give them a road map.
You wouldn’t get behind the wheel of a car without learning how first, would you?
Love your workout videos by the way.
Judy Ritsema, Certified Health Coach
5:23 am
The one thing that really bothers me is the last couple of inches on my waist. I have reduced from 36&1/2 to 33 but dont seem to be making any further progress
7:14 am
Hi!Well that’s a good question “what bother’s me?” I am exercising all week except on sundays. I alternate with some resistance training & intervals (or tabatas). I have seen some changes in my upper & lower boddy. I see more definition on my arms & shoulders which is great!What I want is to see more definition in my calves & ankles cause to me it feels like they have no shape.(they make one) I want to thin out that area of my leggs!Why does it bother me? well I am not capable to wear a skirt or shorts or a dress! That’s how much I am conscious of these areas. What kind of exercices do you suggest to help me thin these body parts? Thanks for your reply!
5:30 am
You know what’s bothering me? ME! I’m a competitive bodybuilder – been competing for 5 years. Previous to competing, I was border-line obese. Got into a healthy life style, lost 40 lbs., then started weight training. The problem is I think bb’ing has turned me into an eating disorder. I diet clean (no cheats at all) for up to 26 weeks for my show, then afterwards, I am now a binge eater. It’s like I start eating sugary foods (bakery and chocolate) and can’t stop. My workouts are solid, my cardio is good, my diet is even good Mon – Fri – it’s the weekends that my diet is a disaster. I know it’s ‘mind over matter’ just like pre-comp, but I just can’t seem to get back at it. Suggestions? (other than ‘just do it’)?
7:01 pm
Scott you are the best. You really show your concern for everyone, you really try to find out what makes people tick what does it take to make someone change their ways? In finding out you not only help yourself better understand people but will be better at helping others. I think people no matter what their circumstances are want the basic things. You are definitly on the right track. Its all emotional no matter what their goal is. You cant just tell someone do this or that and everything will be fine. I think its wonderful that you share a bit of yoursel. you let others know you are human, like sharing your cat what you are going to do for your 30 day challenge, sharing your messy apt:) you let others know you are not perfect either. And i truly believe you want to find the answers to help people. Again you are on the right track. Also i love the great music.
10:37 pm
What bothers me Scott is to be with others who are consistently giving their power away to others-to allow others to control how they feel or how they should look-we as ladies need to be able to look good for ourselves and to feel good for ourselves and not to consistently give up our own enjoyment/fun/pleasure just to please our spouse/boyfriends/etc. I want to make sure I am eating right so I can look good for myself and feel good for myself and then others that are with me can reap the full benefits from that..Helen Cowan
3:57 pm
hi scott. what bothers me… well i have plenty of baggages that bother me. but i think all of these is anchored on the poor self image i have since i started putting on the weight. and i noticed how my partner has gone cold when i still keep the weight and he start losing his own body fats with exercise (35 lbs and still counting in 3 months). you know that stuff about “i love you the way you are, etc…” or those stuff you hear in romantic movies? i never heard that, but instead i got a lot of ribbing from him to lose the fat. i know i can do it but i dont want to do it for the wrong reason – to please him – or get even get even with him.am sure doing so would please me as well. but you know, for some reason, am also scared to be back in my previous form or better… there’s something about being beautiful (again) that gives me the jitters. lol, i told you i have many baggages. but am psyching myself up again to get going and be the beautiful me again.
3:00 pm
What is bothering me most is the fact that I can’t stay motivated for too long…
Like this morning, I woke up with a lot of drive and motivation and I took time to act upon it and subsequently, lost it.
That is really frustrating to me.
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